Lingerie Shopping on a Budget!

Many people ask me, “Where can I buy pretty lingerie without spending a lot of money?”
Below are 4 great websites to purchase some great deals:

If you are looking for hosiery check out my recent discovery and currently my favorite online website: www.stockingshopping.com

They have a great selection and have a brilliant idea I have only seen on this site. It’s called: Garter Stocking…..it’s a one piece stocking and garter belt. It looks great on and so much easier than attaching your stockings to those tricky traditional garter closings! Put your thong on over the garter stocking for easy removal!

My favorite stay-up stockings are made by Levant. For less than $15 you can get a pair of sexy fishnet thigh highs. Check out their selection at: www.levanteusa.com. For those in New York City you can also purchase them at La Petite Coquette at University between 9th and 10th Streets.

Wolford is synonymous with quality and fashion and once you own one piece you will be hooked for life! They are also a bit pricey, but you can find GREAT deals on new Wolford hosiery on www.ebay.com. Just search “wolford.”

For fun lingerie, stockings, accessories and toys check out: www.patriciafield.com. Be sure to check out the sale section for great savings. In NYC? Head to her store located on Bowery just North of Houston. It is stocked full of fun stuff that you can’t find on the website!

When the world makes us feel ugly, fat, etc.....

I think we live under this false veil that everyone else is so much more than we are especially when it comes to beauty. Celebrity and models are all so perfect(so it seems) and we strive so hard to measure up, but it is air brushing and lights and ..well, old fashioned smoke and mirrors.
I think this sums it up...




It is about a minute long...

Basic Moves Striptease Class Breakdown

So many women want to know what they are gonna learn in the classes so here is a breakdown.
Where do I start, what do learn?..in easy lay woman's terms. OK, first we got Basic. Basic is essentially a crash course. A one hour and forty five minute class that gives you a little bit of it all, but also gets to the meat of what true striptease is all about. Because it isn't about just how you move to the music. It is about your eyes, your posture, the thoughts in your head, your attitude, and the way that you view yourself. So we touch on all of those things.
We get you through your walk, your entrance and the two basic moves (the Robert and Lotion) that you can use when all else fails. We teach you a few moves to do while facing him and then we give you a few moves to accentuate your rear view.
The we move on to the infamous lap dance section. We teach you how to properly position him so that you both can have the best lap experience.
Then again, a few forward facing moves, rear facing moves, and moves where you actually place you body on top of his..oh la la!
Then we show you how to pull off your clothes in a sexy way...including our famous super glue bra trick. Then we talk about C.O.M.A. and review everything.
So come join us for a class and see what it as all about. This is a great way to bond with your girlfriends.
See ya in class!

Why take a striptease class?

I was recently asked a few questions and I wanted to share my responses with you. The questions are about why striptease is popular and why women are now flocking to it in masses!!


Why do you think Exotic dance has gained such popularity over the last year?
1. I think exotic dance and striptease has gained popularity year after year. Perhaps this year stands out to some because it is just reaching further across the US. But I think the real reason is that there has been a lot of press coverage on striptease fitness this year. Terri Hatcher raved about Shelia Kelly's S factor (pole fitness) and Oprah featured both of them on several of her shows. Also Carmen Electra's aerobic striptease video was released in 2003 or 2004, so it is just now really getting out into the world. And I think it will continue to grow. However, these "fitness classes" were just an acceptable front to what was really being taught, or sought after anyway. The public wasn't ready for "stripper" classes, but striptease aerobics was a little easier to swallow. However, now that the public is seeing that the trend is here to stay and that everyone from lawyers to Sunday school teachers are taking it, is becoming more acceptable. Now several companies, ours included, are skipping the fitness cover and going straight to the slow and sensual moves which are what women really want to learn. And other companies, just like ours, are using exotic dancers to teach and design their classes, not aerobics instructors. These ladies want to move like the girl at the strip club, not like Jane Fonda..no offense Jane. Because real strippers don't sweat!! The routines and moves are slow, sexy, and very sensual.

Why is exotic dance something that so many woman want to learn?
2. I think women just want to feel wanted, to feel sexy. That is why they come to class, to feel desirable and to awaken that naughty diva inside that society and just plain growing up has stifled. They want to feel OK about using their sexuality. It is a bit of the Cleopatra complex; to be able to use your feminine wiles to have ultimate power. But really it is about self confidence. I think most women with self esteem issues(and we all have our moments) trace this problem back to issues with their bodies, their looks, hence their sexiness. These classes let women use movement to reconnect to this lost sexiness, and big thighs and small breasts are forgotten when they see them selves moving. It is just another baby step in the yet unfinished feminist revolution that started over forty years ago.

Any other comments you might have about what you have seen as far as increased popularity.
3.Popularity is gaining because it is becoming more accepted. But we still have a long way to go. We(StripXpertease) still get denied rental space because of the "type" classes we teach and I still have clients who don't want to tell anyone about their classes. But there are those who do promote us and those clients who want to tell the world, and as long as they keep talking, this trend will continue to grow.

Pole dancing is hard y'all!

O ...this is why I don't teach pole dance..Cuz its hard!! And I dont' want to be responsible for this. I have seeen this happen in the club too...OUCH!!

How to perform a striptease ...our article. Section C of PART I

Step two: Harness your confidence, or at least the look of it.

Gentleman’s clubs always advertise a bevy of top notch, Playboy quality beauties for your carnal pleasure. However, the truth is that they are not all Barbie doll babes. They can be extremely short, very tall, sport double Gs, or be flat chested. They can be too thin or quite chunky. I have seen a shaved head dancing next to Portia De Rossi hair. Some wear more makeup than Tammy Faye, and some have never used mascara in their life. But they all make money. So who makes the most? It is not always the prettiest girl with the perfect C cup. It also is not the girl who dances a little closer than she should in the VIP room. Time and time again, the girl who leaves with the fattest wad of bills is the girl who exudes the most confidence through out the night, be it on stage or on the floor. Whether it is a put on or sincere, confidence is a must. At first, for you, it probably will not be genuine. After all, it can be a daunting experience to stand in front of your man and put on a sexy show. It is natural to be nervous, but you must put on an act. Every exotic dancer has something that they feel completely self conscious about, but they fake it and push onward! So, how do you achieve this false confidence when all you can think about is your exposed cellulite, falling in your heels, and whether or not he is going to laugh or cry? Your first step is to practice, practice, practice. I will say it again, it is imperative that everything is this little guide be practiced. Strippers are not born; they are made through 8 hours a night, 4 days a week of on the job training. Trust me, every veteran in the bar can spot a new girl a mile away. Just keep that in the back of your mind.
To achieve the look of confidence, a constant smile is paramount. Not the beauty queen smile, but the, I have a naughty little secret smile. Smile a devious smile like the Elvis grin that made the world week in the knees. Now, tilt your head down slightly, and lift your eyes. You are now in predator mode, and he is most definitely the prey. Mimic the Sahara lion stalking her prey in the tall grass, moving deliberately. You are in control of this show, this ride, this moment. Then you must find your mantra. This is something you will repeat over and over inside your head. It should pull your focus inward and make you feel powerful. Repeat, “He wants me. He is so hot for me, I could just stand here and he would pop a woody.” Sound stuck up? Good! Remember, selfish stripper! By doing this you are oozing confidence and finding your power. Next, look at him and narrow your eyes a la Paris Hilton. Imagine yourself as Medusa or a powerful sorceress, and your gaze is what keeps the spell alive, intact. Practice this face in the mirror. Just like models practice their look in a mirror, so should you, until it becomes easy and natural. Do it while you put on your make up in the morning.

How to perform a striptease ...our article. Section B of PART I

Step one: Put him in a C.O. M. A.

Since you don’t have the DJ, lights, house mom (lady responsible for hair and makeup in the dressing room), or pole, you will have to improvise and do it yourself. Remember this; you will want to make him beg for more. Hurt him so badly that you leave him in a coma. That is C.O. M. A.

C stands for confidence. Make sure you are feeling very confident on the day of your dance. He might have a reaction that you did not plan on. When faced with something like this from their lovers, men are sometimes overwhelmed. They might be embarrassed or even laugh. I even had a client tell me once that her boyfriend cried because he was so touched. Just make sure that you are confident in your skills, have practiced, and have prepared for anything that might happen. I will discuss confidence in more detail in a moment.

O is for outfit. The key is to wear what makes you feel as sexy and as fabulous as possible. Do not be concerned with what he likes. Your pride and happiness in the way you look will make you more attractive than you would be in something he picked out that makes you feel less than beautiful. Remember, selfish stripper! Go to your local lingerie store, pick out a few outfits, and please try them on to see how they fit. Buy at least two outfits, and wear the one that feels best for your mood on the big day. Nothing makes a stripper feel worse than the wrong outfit. There is a very good reason why dancers have 30 outfits and change constantly. You will also need a thong, or T-back, which is an undie with a one inch thick strip of cloth that covers your rear end. G-strings (undies with just a string to cover the back end) are nice, but I feel that they reveal a little too much before it is time. It is like wrapping a gift in cellophane. If you insist on full bottoms, wear a thong underneath for the final reveal. And yes, you need heels. You would not ride a bicycle without tires and you are not going to do a striptease without heels. My recommendation is six inch stiletto platform open toe shoes with an ankle strap. They will be easy to find online. Your new shoes will need to be broken in. Just wear them around the house in 20 minute intervals until you start to get the hang of it. If they are too tight, heat up the stretchy plastic parts with a hair dryer before slipping them on. They really can be quite comfortable once you adjust to the height. Also do not be afraid to experiment with accessories like belly chains, thigh highs, gloves, garters, and hats. However, all accessories stay on.
M is for music, your background music. It should be loud enough to feel in your body, but it should not over power the show. It can be fast if you want it to be, but slow and heavy songs are always best. No matter how fast the song is you should always move slowly. Also, your song should conjure up emotion. It should make you feel empowered, sexy, or exactly how you imagine you will feel when you ace the dance. I happen to love Into You by Ashanti because the song describes how much she adores the man in front of her and the beat is super sexy. Or for empowerment, Miss Independent by Kelly Clarkson is great and fun to move to. Songs about sex and its joys are always perfect. Darling Nikki by Prince is just plain hot. Load your new hit into your iPod and listen to it like a Tony Robbins tape. Absorb it. You should know every guitar riff, every lyric, every oh and ah. The more that you know your song, the better that you will be able to move to it. The beauty of dancing is that you can move to drums, guitars, even lyrics. As you practice with your song, you will see where you can punch certain moves and accelerate others. Just like the original strippers, or burlesque dancers, moved to the drum beat, so will you.
A is for atmosphere and appearance. These are things we know, but often overlook: kids at grandma’s, phones off, lights dimmed, doors locked, and wine and candles as needed. Also, a little effort on your looks will go a long way. Shave everything (ever heard of a Brazilian wax?), get a pedi/mani, let your hair down, use lots of perfume, put on makeup, and pop a mint. Body oils, shimmery powders, and lip glosses are wonderful beauty tools as well.

How to perform a striptease ...our article. Section A of PART I

You go girl, you finally did it! You took a strip cardio class, wore your new Victoria’s Secret bra, sat your lover down, and told him to prepare for your alluring and tantalizing striptease. Except… it didn’t go quite as planned. To work up your courage, you drank one too many glasses of wine. You fell twice. You couldn’t get your damn bra unhooked, and instead of channeling Gypsy Rose Lee or Carmen Electra, you embodied a dancing hybrid of Dame Edna and Elaine from Seinfeld. Bless your heart, you tried. The truth is it is not as easy as strippers make it look. Nevertheless, striptease is a fantastic way to get in touch with your inner diva and show your sweetheart that you aim to please. There is nothing better than a new trick that causes your lover to stare at you with wide eyes and gasp, “Where did you learn that?”

Now more than ever, women are lining up in droves to learn this special way of erotic and powerful control. I know because I myself teach ordinary women how to move like exotic dancers. I have taught all types, sizes, and shapes of women including grandmothers, CEOs, third grade teachers and doctors. I am 29 now, and I spent the majority of my twenties as a topless dancer, dancing my way into the hearts and wallets of men for more years than I care to admit. And I was good. When the guys were not spending money in the bar, the rear dressing room would become full of girls. But I was rarely in the back. Once a fellow dancer walked into the dressing room filled with fed up girls, sat next to me, and said, “Well, if you’re back here, I know there’s no money out there!” I was always raking in the dough. However, I was not the best looking girl in the club. I was muscular with a thick waist, thin hair, and a small B cup. But I had perfected the art of seduction through dance, and until I had become burned out during my last few years, I usually had at least 2-3 guys waiting for a lap dance through out my entire shift.

So why do women want to do this tawdry tango for their partners in the first place? Why not just buy a new sex toy or slip on a cop's outfit for a little role play? There is something powerful about striptease, and it is also something most men fantasize about. Guys do not stand in the street ogling the traffic cop at 23rd and 5th or wait in line at the downtown sex shop when the latest ball tickler or Jenna Jameson video is released. But they will wait in line, pay a twenty dollar cover charge, spend four times the street value for a beer, and drop hundreds to thousands in a single sitting on an exotic dancer. Why? Honestly, it is different for each guy. Usually, it is either the fantasy of the unattainable, the opportunity to get close to a beautiful woman who will show him her boobs, the chance to have the most stunning girls in the room vying for his attention (a.k.a. money), the possibility that he will be able to touch what shouldn’t be touched, the novelty of being in the “titty bar”, or just a chance to hang with the boys and act like cave men (Beer good. Woman good.). The list goes on and on. For most, it is the equivalent of us ladies snagging a win-a-date with our favorite hunky celeb. We know he won’t really be interested, but just maybe. And if he wants to lean over and plant one…well, we wouldn’t mind! It is a one-night fantasy. But the question to ask is, how do I tap into that fantasy? How do I become her?

Here it is, your two part 21st century guide to striptease. Even though it is not as easy as it looks, it can be learned, and most importantly, it can be mastered! The first part of this guide will cover the exterior appearance of an exotic dancer and the initial set up of your own “main stage.” The second part will cover the actual moves to make your honey drool. First things first, you have to stop thinking about how this is going to please him (Or her for all my lovely lesbians out there. And yes, the same rules apply.), and start thinking about how this is going to benefit you, because in the long run, it will. Think of yourself as the self centered, selfish stripper.

More funny pole dancing commercials

Ok this is just funny...how many of us want to get down on that subway pole?

Yes, we alllll fall down

This could happen to you!