More about the heels you strip in

When you wear them, still point your toes at every opportunity. POINT POINT POINT!!!

And as far as options, you have a lot.
BUT:
Be able to walk in 6 inches before you move to 8 inches. Please. If the cushion of the shoe is black, it will most likely bleed onto your toes, if your feet sweat at all. The sole of the shoe should be rubber, or you will slip around. And if you wear boots, wear thick socks too.

If you find your foot cramping from pointing, try to "work out" your feet more. ex: without shoes, point, and then flex and repeat 50 x's. Then try "drawing" the alphabet with your pointed toes.

If you find your foot slipping through the shoe, you can find cheap shoe pads at payless shoe source and super glue them into the base of the shoe. If you don't glue them in, they will slip around when you point your toe.

And NO, in reality, they aren't like walking on little pillows, but if you wear them and put on a good show, what he does to you afterwards should feel pretty damn close :)

Heels or no heels when you perform a striptease?

Heels or no heels?


Dammit, wear the heels. In all of my StripXpertease classes I recommend that ladies wear them.

Unless you have a guy who is wildly turned on by bare feet. Keep them on ...and for god's sake practice in them. If you are going to wear "stripper" heels, I suggest 6 inch open toe (lets toes not get so mushed) platform (pumps are a whole other animal) heels with ankle support. That means the strap wraps around your ankle. And make sure the toe strap is fairly thick too. Boots are great too and they give the ankle lots of support. A bit pricier, but safer for those worried about falling. Just know, even the seasoned professionals trip up every once and a while. Just make sure you can play it off ...like no big deal.

Good luck!!

Songs to dance to during your striptease dance.

Oh boy, I get this question ALL the time. Honestly it depends on you. When I was dancing, I picked songs that enhanced my mood. If I was happy, they were happy songs. And if I was sad, well, they were sad songs. Most of the time at work you either loved being there or you hated it. Those feelings were directly linked to the amount of money you were making and how quickly you were making it. That was usually what influenced my mood. If I was affected by outside sources, my music reflected that. Anemia by Tool if I hated everything. Hole's Doll Parts when boys, (or usually one particular boy) really ticked me off. I also tried to change my mood. Playing a song that reminded me off good times when I was down...it always seemed to work. However slow and sexy is always best. When you are dancing you will most likely be nervous and will move faster than needed. So pick slow songs to slow you down. StripXpertease has iMixes available on iTunes.


Here are a few of the artists and songs I used to dance to: Jay Z, 2Pac, Lauryn Hill, Regulators by Warren G, Chico deBarge, Korn, Beastie Boys, Foo Fighters, Prince, Madonna, The Verve, Marvin Gaye, Drive by the Cars, Enigma, Dre, Busta, Clapton, Depeche Mode, Poe, the entire Crooklyn soundtrack, old Motown, Ben Folds, Steely Dan, The Police, Local Austin Bands(Scabs, Little Sister, Breedlove), DJ Rap's Fuck with Your Head, 112, Beck, Easy E, Massive Attack, Nate Dogg, Incubus, Joe Cocker, Duran Duran, Sasha, Opus 3, Thievery Corp., Kosheen, Curtis Mayfield, Stevie Wonder, Ozomatli, Jane's Addiction, Smashing Pumpkins, Olive, George Micheal, Orbital, Portis head, Barry White, and A Perfect Circle...just to name a few.

Things I miss about working as a stripper

I have often been asked what I miss about the business. I can tell you there are a few things, but they are far outweighed by the things I don't miss. But here are few of both.

I miss:

1. The way my make up always smelled like perfume.
2. Free drinks. :)
3. The awesome music. 8 hours of music every night so loud you could feel it in your chest.
4. The routine of getting ready. I hated it then, but now I kinda of miss it. It was like your own mini spa: shave, nails, skin, hair, makeup, etc
5. Dancing on stage and having a chance to express emotion...whether it was a sad song because I was sad or happy one if I was on cloud nine, or the angry songs...that was fun too. Really hitting the beats of the song and knowing you rocked it out. (My favorite!)


I don't miss:

1. The cat fighting over customers...we need to grow up...really.(and yes, I did it too).
2. The negative comments from men, "you are too skinny, too fat, too short, too old, too young...." They could be really cruel. And you heard it every night..every girl hears it.
3. Slooooow nights.
4. Bar food. Every night. Yuck.
5. Sloppy drunk groping gross customers. Stop drinking and don't touch me a**hole! YUCK!

Banish razor burn and bumps...how to shave the bikini line

I often had girls at work ask me how I did it. I NEVER got razor burn, except once in a blue moon. So I will share my secret...although not everything works for everyone. I have heard all kinds of remedies; from post-shave using: balmex, a.h.a.'s , deodorant, and over the counter aides sold with waxing kits. Then there are those who wax. Then there are those use certain things to shave with: baby oil, shave gels, shave creams, dove soap. Others use a new razor every time. Other actually plucked individual hairs with tweezers (and yes Ive done this. not as bad as you think). Others use a product sold to prevent beard bumps. Me, I did the same thing every time.
I shaved my bikini line in the shower. However it would be the LAST thing I did in the shower. I used a new razor every 3rd shave. I would use a net loofah (the kind the have at bath and body works) and scrub really hard. Then I apply shave cream, then shave, pulling skin tight. First in the direction of growth, then against it...which I know is a major no-no for some. Keep the skin tight! But it works for me... to get a really smooth shave. Then I pat dry, and apply lotion with oil in it. Nivea works great. Then let the lotion dry before you get dressed. Its the scrubbing that works. When I skipped this step...I got in trouble.

The "Stripper" Smell... what is that perfume?

So.... I recently had a question from a student :
1. I've noticed that at some strip clubs the women have this fantastic smell, and I feel like some of them smell the same, so I was thinking either that could be a perfume, or perhaps an oil of some sort...do you have any idea what I'm talking about? Any recommendations? I really want to make this as realistic as possible for my guy...

Sooooo I wanted to share my answer since this is not the first time I have been asked this particular question.
1. We do have a smell...isn't it funny. Really, its a combo of all of us wearing A LOT of perfume, body spray, scented lotion, and hair products. We bounce around from guy to guy, leaving our scent trail...hahaha. Then everyone ends up smelling the same. The trick is to DOUSE yourself in it. Now, straight up eau de parfum (a lot of dancers use it, but we have cigarettes, booze, and other smells to contend with) will knock your honey out because it will be too strong, but eau de toilette and body sprays will work. Pick a scent you like, douse, and give yourself 20 min. after spray down before you rub on him.
To douse, spray your self (naked) with it like you are applying a self tanner (don't miss a spot). Also get your hands and hair ...and a little extra in the decolletage and crotch. Then do the same thing for your outfit and voila...you are good to go!

OK, I need to slow down and smell the roses

Yeah, yeah, I work too much...shit I have been hearing that a lot lately from you people...you friends...friends what are those??? Yes it has become that bad. But it is time for redirection. It has been one hell of a year.
New friends, lost friends, reconnecting with old friends, friends that were never really friends, friends when I needed them most
No job, side jobs, new jobs, quitting jobs, shit jobs, creating jobs,
business, business woman, life woman, business-life, life is business,
addictions, addiction transference, confronting those with, admission of my own, friends with, disorders, therapy, therapists, and plays about them all.
New dreams, lost dreams, dreams put on the shelf, and dreams that were really nightmare (..... thank god I woke up).
birthdays, 30, anniversaries, good and bad, 1 yr of quitting, 4 yrs here, 1 yr doing it my way
pups and almost losing pups, knowing I will lose pups...damn I love ma pups.
tevo and nascar, too much tevo and sopranos, BB AS, and seeing my self on tv, and my friends.
Texas, New York, New Jersey, and Home.....seasons, home, travel, parents and family, and learning about my past.
Lost love, true love, forever love, leaving love, pain, dating, internet dating (I wasn't the ONLY ONE), being single, new love, imaginary love, and loving myself.
Soo I get it, for now....it always changes and you gotta change with it, but you gotta slow down and you gotta smile and you gotta laugh...and you gotta smell the roses ..
I will continue to stand up for ma-self. I will try not to hurt myself or those I love and I will try to spend more time with ma friends, who without, none of those things would matter anyway. :)

I made a baby!

I just got a call from a client who took the D.A.N.C.E. series from me which is my one-on-one six week class. She completed the class a few months ago. She did it as a surprise for her boyfriend and at the end was really quite good at her routine. Apparently the night she finally danced for him he was really impressed and the night ended up being pretty steamy! And now she is pregnant and she and the doctor have traced the conception day back to the night of dancing!!! Crazy!! The first StripXpertease baby!
Well, I'm glad some body's getting some!

Leaving Austin...for good.

Ohhhh boy. Well I am back in NYC today and EXHAUSTED!!! So first, I just wanna say sorry to all my Texas peeps that I missed this time around. I was more busy than I ever expected, but the training went well and I think, no, I KNOW Saralynn will be an amazing instructor. Expanding my business out of NYC is extremely frightening to me, but I am trying to embrace it.
This trip was so difficult on so many levels, and I have to say I am relieved to be home. Yes, home. I realized this time around more than ever before that this is home now. This is where my life is, and this is where I would stay. I cried when I landed in Texas, right there in the airport. Things seemed so different than every other time I had been home, I say home because that is what I called Austin when I recalled this story to my friends.

But back to my story, I actually cried as I walked off of the plane into the sunshine of the Lone Star state. I thought, wait ...don't I usually cry when I leave? What am I doing I asked myself. Why am I crying? I was dreading this trip ...never before was I fearful to come back "home" but this time I had butterflies when I landed. Expanding, waiting, hoping, longing, loving, losing, begging, ....crying, wishing, accepting.....all of these things flowing in and out.
I mean I know the surface reason why I shed a few tears, but really it was because I knew somewhere inside than when I returned to that airport in 10 days it would be to finally really leave Austin.
And I did, not willingly mind you, but I did, and I think I will probably cry again, but for now, I am OK.